Relfect, re-direct.

Posted on by She Who Roars

“Be slow to speak when you are angry.”

 Stressful times can add un-relevant and short lived exertions of feelings to your conduct of speech, and manner, It is wise to be slow to speak…

Stop. Think.

I have reached a pivotal point in my life, once again. I suppose life is made up up these, huh? I believe it is what you make of them that directs the path you lead…

As I reflect, and I might say, I encourage you to do the same. I conclude two simple facts;

  • I own every good and poor decision I have made.
  • I accept every good and negative circumstance of my life.

I can take a cold hard look in the mirror, I se the ugly and difficult times I have faced. To some, it may seem odd, maybe even crazy that I give thanks to the hardships and trials I have endured. To those “some” I can guarantee that they do not possess the upper-hand that I (and you if you share in my walk) have been given.

The Upper-hand being;

  • THE ABILITY TO SEE PAST THE CURRENT MOMENT I AND WE ARE IN. I now now that the phrase “This to shall pass,” carries more weight than most will believe. I tell a few close to me that endure rocky times; “No bad time will last forever.” Simple as that. What a simple yet LOUD reminder! In the same breath, No good time will last forever.” Not to sound negative, more-so a realistic approach to life. Life has it’s waves, the ups and downs. Eventually, each wave will hit a “Break wall.” Then, the new wave comes, good or bad. Upon this realization and acceptance of it, you will be better equipped to navigate your way through the oncoming wave, whether it be tidal or current.
  • THE ENDURANCE AND ABILITY TO ALLOW EACH “WAVE” PUSH ME IN A DIRECTION THAT IS NECESSARY FOR POSITIVE OUTCOMES. To put it bluntly, I have been through a-lot in my 28 years of life. In past (and some recent) times, I didn’t posses (Or realize that I DID) the strength it required for me, at that time, to endure the storms with a clear mind. I firmly believe that every breakdown I’ve ever had, was a breakthrough for me to walk boldly and fiercely into my future. Much of life skill is based off of experience. In past times I simply did not have the resource of knowledge, or experience to realize that;  I am an incredibly strong woman. I am capable of anything, even more than I may give myself credit for. My past does not define the individual I am now. “I” and “we” as individuals are constantly evolving, as we turn each new corner of life. What do we choose to make of it?
  • I AM AN INCREDIBLE MOTHER.  I can proudly and boldly proclaim this with all confidence. As all parents , am I perfect? Certainly not. As with; “It’s what you make of it,” being a single mother pushes me even harder to be the very best I can for the three little lives that depend on me. It is up to me to give them the memories that will drive them into their future. I play a HUGE role into the adults that they will one day become. I may have some making up to do in terms of divorce and the heartache it brings to children. By making up I mean; I realize that I cannot remove hurt comes with divorce, I do believer however that I can help alleviate it. First and foremost by simply being there. But on a deeper level, giving them the encouragement that each difficult time they face in life is only elevating them to greater strength, and when thought out wisely, can be use for SUCH GOOD!
  • ALL OF THE HARDSHIPS I’VE FACED WERE ONLY EQUIPPING ME WITH A STORY, A COMPELLING ONE. To those who may relate and need; Inspiration, and motivation in the moments I once found myself. Stuck. Without hope. I am strong now because I was once seemingly weak. Seemingly because, “crumbling” and acknowledging that you have reached a wall you simply cannot climb on your while extending a hand for help, to some, is a sign of instability and weakness. While it may be so, in some regard, I also think to some degree, for those who are currently suffering, it should most definitely reflect strength and regard for self. To humble yourself, to yourself, in asking for a bit of direction TAKES STRENGTH.

This may be a bold statement, I believe my life is that of a success story. In terms of “Surviving the Storm.” Not just surviving, coming out stronger! stronger than I could have ever known capable.

I believe I can offer hope to others.